| |
| |
|
Inspirational Information |
|
|
|
Playing With Fire
Direct Answers - Column for the week of October 21, 2002 I am a stay-at-home mom, 24, married to my husband, 26, for six years. He has a problem chatting with young girls online. I have "caught" him numerous times, and it's always the same thing. He's sorry and says it's only a game to him, but he continues to do it. He works with a high school program and knows these girls in real life. I've recorded his conversations, and they are very disturbing. He likes the attention, and for some reason teenage girls are attracted to him, never mind he's 10 years older and married with children. Recently I read a conversation in which he told a girl the only reason he's married is because I got pregnant, which is true. He says we are best friends, and eventually we will "move on" when the time is right. This was news to me. I confronted him, and he said he only said those things because he knew I was spying on him and wanted me to come forward. I don't believe that. I don't think he knew I read his messages. I believe that is the way he feels. He tells me constantly he loves me and is never mean in any other way. He says it's an escape for him. In a way I believe it, but I cannot forget what he said about our marriage. If that's how he feels, why does he want to stay? Jewell Jewell, when your husband said he wrote something provocative to make you come forward, it's a little like saying he wanted a policeman to come forward so he began to speed. It doesn't hold water. The question is what is real and what is fantasy. Your husband is playing an escalating game with real people who are too young for him to be playing with. He hasn't stopped because there aren't escalating consequences. He is casting his net wide, hitting on these girls, waiting for something to happen. He is taking a chance one of them will print out what he says and pass it around. Even more threatening, sooner or later he is going to find the one he cannot resist. Meanwhile, the young girls get a chance to try out their sexuality on an adult male. For most it will just be practice. For one of them, it is likely to be the real thing. If you don't present him with serious reasons for stopping, that is where his behavior is likely to lead. Your husband is toying with the pin on a hand grenade. If you can't get him to put it down, you need to get out of the blast zone. Wayne & Tamara Song And Dance Why is sex so public? Why is it used as a marketing tool? I just don't get it. I throw up at the sight and sound of this garbage. What happened to the good old days when sex was private, shared between two people, and never spoken about in public? I miss them, and I wasn't even alive then. Briana Briana, human beings are built to respond rapidly to things involving fear, food, sex, approval, and authority. There are people, companies, and institutions who know this and stand to gain by pushing our buttons. They don't care about us. They care about their own agenda. Wisdom comes from understanding our own hot buttons and detaching ourselves from self-serving messages. Just because we live in a certain time doesn't mean we can't stand apart from that time. Instead of reacting to every message and letting people push our buttons, we need to ask, Who will gain if I act on this message? Until we understand that, we are like a willow whipped by a wind stirred by others. After we understand that, we are like the sedate oak barely moved by even the strongest winds. Wayne & Tamara About The Author Authors and columnists Wayne and Tamara Mitchell can be reached at www.WayneAndTamara.com. Send letters to: Direct Answers, PO Box 964, Springfield, MO 65801 or email: DirectAnswers@WayneAndTamara.com.
MORE RESOURCES:
Inspirational - Google News |
|
|
|
RELATED ARTICLES
What an Artist Experiences When Working With the Angels I am an Angel artist on a passionate spiritual journey and I would like to share my story of what it is like to work with the Angels. It is a unique experience and very real. Tsunamis in the Bible? I have always wondered how the Red Sea parted as described in the Exodus story of Moses.The recent Tsunamis that happened in West Sumatra and the tremendous destruction that came with it got me thinking - was this what really happened to the Egyptian army when they were pursuing the Hebrew people while they were led out of Egypt by Moses?On the internet, many eyewitness accounts can be obtained very fast. Weapons of Mass Distraction Anything that draws one away from the business of living and being worthy - such as drugs, alcohol, distractions of all descriptions, and sleep when the intent is oblivion, not to mention the idea of killing oneself - is a means of escaping, a little death, and death itself is the ultimate escape.Anything can be a means of avoiding problems. Consulting Your Soul Recently I approached a traffic light where a man stood in shabby clothes with a three-legged dog by his side. As I waited for the light to change I looked at this scene with compassion and felt an urge to contribute something. Energy Work Basics Part 1: So What is Energy? Everything is made of energy. Atoms, molecules, light, sound and color have energy. Getting Past Those Blah Days Get It OutWhen something is bothering you, whether be a family problem or business roadblock, write it down or talk to someone about it. Keeping problems inside only worsen with time. Duplicity Direct Answers - Column for the week of January 26, 2004We've been married 20 years. In order to spice up our sex life we would occasionally share fantasies, and one that seemed to turn us both on involved my wife with me and another man. The Power Of Love In Your Life! CELEBRATE YOUR LIFE!"If there is light in the soul, there will be beauty in the person. If there is beauty in the person, there will be harmony in the house. Innocent Fun Just the other day, I escaped the business of my daily life and sought refuge on the water front here in Montreal in an attempt to recharge my energies.Taking advantage of a beautiful day, I walked along the long stretch of the Saint Lawrence River, as a way of my meditation routine. Quest for Freedom--A Story Of Pure Courage The Nazis stormed into the house of Stanislavsky Lech, who was Jewish, herded the entire family out at gunpoint, packed them into an overcrowded train, filled with the stench of death and despair, and sent them to Krakow.Then, before his eyes, Lech saw his entire family shot. Challenge Your Problems Life teaches us in peculiar ways. It knocks us down. Caste Out Direct Answers - Column for the week of September 29, 2003I am a 28-year-old Indian lady. I am in love with a 30-year-old Indian guy for the last four years. The Dead Direct Answers - Column for the week of February 9, 2004I love my wife with all my heart and soul. She is now and will ever be the other half of my heart. Walking The Walk Direct Answers - Column for the week of July 14, 2003I have a very important question. My wife moved out of the house last year with our young son and daughter. Why My Wife Is My Hero My name is Chas Brothers. Many of you know me as an author of motivational articles directed towards both big and small business alike. A Global Empathy Deficit- 2 Lessons ".. Doing the Remarkable When it comes to meeting and conquering the negativity in your life, here is a key question: what can you do, starting today, that will make a difference? What can you do during economic chaos? What can you do when everything has gone wrong? What can you do when you've run out of money, when you don't feel well and it's all gone sour? What can you do?Let me give you the broad answer first. You can do the most remarkable things, no matter what happens. Change is the Only Constant The physics professor with the unruly shock of white hair strolls up to the blackboard, picks up the chalk, and writes a big tilde, then below it an equally large equal sign-thus creating the symbol for "approximately equals."Turning to the amphitheater full of eager students and pointing to the board, he smiles, "Ladies and gentlemen, there is only one ting dot is certain in zee known universe. Never Jump to Conclusions Human mind which is well known as a fluctuating prodigy presumes itself to be a great judge. It is so natural for the mind to judge anything that appears to it especially so in the case of other human beings. Hitler and the Tsunami In Catholic school the nuns used to tell us that we should love everyone as we loved Jesus. We didn't have to like them but we had to love them.
|
| home | site map |
| © 2006 |
